“Men are like microwaves and women are like crock pots” – author unknown.

Lately my wife has been into making meals using the crock pot. She has found multiple recipes for crock pots and even found a website dedicated to all things crock pots.

The other day she asked me to start the crock pot before I left for work. Her exact words were “the fate of crock pots everywhere depends on you getting this right.” She left me very specific instructions, “Press cook time until 8 hrs – Low is lit up.” She even set an alarm clock to help remind me to turn the crock pot on. Lucky for me I didn’t mess it up.

Whenever I hear about crock pots I can’t help but remember something that was said to me in premarital counseling. “Women are like crock pots and men are like microwaves.” It was during the intimacy discussion. Now I was a virgin before I got married so I didn’t have a fat clue what my pastor was talking about. All I knew is that microwaves and crock pots both make food. I love food so I thought he was saying I was going to love intimacy. Little did I know…little did I know.

Intimacy is pretty messed up in our society. We’ve made it strictly physical. I know it’s a little awkward to talk about but God is the one that came up with the idea. It was Him who created women to be more like crock pots and men to be like microwaves. So what exactly does that mean? Great question.

For guys intimacy starts in the bedroom. Most guys don’t need a lot of romance. A guy could get into a fight with his wife, apologize, and then smack her on the butt and be in the mood. Not so with girls. For girls it takes time. Whenever I do premarital counseling this is the advice I give to couples…

  • Guys – romance your wife. Intimacy for her starts way before bedtime. It takes 8 hours to prep a meal in a crock pot. 8 hours! For women it starts when she knows that you are thinking about her throughout the day by sending her a text. It starts when you walk into the kitchen and rub your fingers through her hair for no reason. It starts when you give her your undivided attention. Too many guys retire the romance jersey once they get married. Guys need to know that whatever they did to win their wife is the same thing they need to do to keep her.
  • Girls – guys don’t think like you. It takes seconds to microwave most meals. Your man just needs you to call Victoria and ask her what her secret is. Too many wives forget Victoria’s number and settle for a ratty t-shirt and some comfy pajama pants. Now if you can’t afford Victoria then just cut some strategic holes in that ratty t-shirt and viola. Most women make it really easy on the guy at first. I think it’s because they are trying to win him over but at the beginning of most relationships the guy doesn’t have to work that hard. But something happens after after the honeymoon.  After they get married the wife develops sudden headaches that tend to happen at bedtime. The point is that whatever you did to attract your guy is the same thing that you need to do to keep him.

The bottom line is that men and women are different. I’ll give you a second as you let that profound thought sink in. Whew. Okay, back to the point. Men and women are different. We don’t think like the opposite sex. But in marriage we are called by God to put our spouse’s needs ahead of our own. When a husband puts his wife’s needs first she doesn’t have a problem meeting his needs. And when a wife puts her husband’s needs first he doesn’t have a problem meeting her needs.